Writing

Giving Myself a Pep Talk

I had a rough week. It was one of those weeks where nothing objectively terrible happened, but a bunch of small things conspired to absolutely wring the life out of you. I was exhausted from the semester starting again, I had a butt ton of papers to give feedback on, I had to go to the DMV to get my car inspected and have my partner get a new ID, my body decided to kick my butt in terms of fatigue and pain, and my partner’s mom ended up in the hospital for a moderately scary issue. Ultimately, mom-in-law is okay and on the mend, the papers got graded, and everything went well, but I barely got any writing done this past week.

On Thursday, I got home from work and thought I would finally be able to write now that everything had settled down, only to have the words bounce off my brain. I could feel myself ready to beat myself up over it, but instead, I stepped back and listened to an audiobook for a few hours before bed. Normally, I would try to just push through or punish myself by refusing to let myself read or decompress with anything fun because I didn’t “deserve” to have dessert if I didn’t eat my vegetables (aka writing). I’ve been trying to be better about recognizing when I’m mentally fried and need to do things to help me refill the well. Void staring as punishment does not help, and I’m glad that I trusted my body and allowed myself to decompress because, even though I didn’t write much on Friday, I was able to reread what I wrote the previous week to reacquainted myself with the text and edit a decent chunk of it.

Even if it was tiny, it was progress. Saturday was a bit better. I hit the point where I realized I needed to major edits on a scene and spent most of the day untangling that mess. Once again, it was a semi-low words day, but I still wrote and still worked on my book. Editing is time consuming and uses up a lot of brain power, which is why it’s sometimes hard to write afterwards. I resisted the urge to beat myself up again on Saturday because I did not hit my minimum goal or catch up. This was all made worse by this being the first week of September– first week, start strong, fresh start, blah blah blah. You get the mentality.

By Sunday, I had hit the realization that it’s just another week in the year. It is one week out of fifty-two, and falling short of your goals because you had a week from hell isn’t a going to ruin The Reanimator’s Fate or set me so far back I can never catch up. It’s fine. I’m fine. The book is fine. Ever since I realized I had to push back the release date for The Reanimator’s Fate, I have felt very guilty about it, even if my readers have been lovely about it. Releasing the book in early 2026 isn’t going to ruin anything or let down my readers who are eagerly waiting for the final book. No one is mad at me. No one hates me. The only one who is beating me up over it is me.

That’s really the crux of the matter: the only one punishing me for not being perfect is me. It’s still hard for me to grapple with the fact that giving 100% does not mean being at peak performance 24/7. I always feel like I should be writing 1k or more a day without fail, but that is unrealistic. 100% sometimes means just rereading what I wrote. Other days, it means just editing, and on bad days, 100% is refilling the well and watching Deadliest Catch while I passively think about what I want to write tomorrow.

My writing career is a marathon, not a sprint, so sustainability is key. Listening to my brain and body is a major part of that, and I’m trying to get better about not beating myself up when I need to take a short break to recharge. Sometimes, a month starts out rough, and that’s okay. A new week is a new week, no matter where in the month it falls. All that matters is that you start again and keep going.

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August 2025 Wrap-Up Post

August has simultaneously been the longest month and still flown by very quickly. This is probably because the semester started again for me this past week, which always makes the month feel a bit chaotic. Before we get into it, let’s get into what my goals were for August:

  • Write 20,000 words of TRF
  • Get my book cover stuff in order for TRF
  • Attempt to work on the F&F rewrite
  • Make my syllabi for my classes
  • Set up my Blackboards for my classes
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • Send out newsletter

Books

My goal was to read 8 books, and I read 9 this month.

  1. The Memory of the Ogisi (#3) by Moses Ose Utomi- 4 stars, this was the conclusion of the Forever Desert series. It was incredibly interesting to see the cycle fully completed and how it relates to the earlier books. Highly recommend if you want a series of novellas that talks about how history is written by the victor and how that affects the future.
  2. The Shortest History of the Dinosaurs by Riley Black- 4 stars, an incredibly thorough yet short(ish) book on the history of the dinosaurs. I love a good overview, and Riley Black does a fantastic job of covering a lot in a way that feels like storytelling rather than info dumping. It makes nonfiction far more palatable.
  3. All Systems Red (#1) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, I’m going to lump the whole series into this one review because I don’t want to give away spoilers, and I think most of the reviews will be similar. I often find robot autistics to be off-putting, but Murderbot being autistic and asexual just hits for me. The poor thing just wants to be left alone to watch their dramas and chill, yet humans continually need savings and feelings keep coming whether they want them or not.
  4. Artificial Condition (#2) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, see book one.
  5. Rapport (#2.5) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, see book one.
  6. Rogue Protocol (#3) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, see book one.
  7. Exit Strategy (#4) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, see book one.
  8. Home (#4.5) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, see book one.
  9. Thornhedge by T. Kingfisher- 4 stars, a twist on the princess in a tower story involving a Muslim knight who keeps apologizing and a human-turned-faerie who just wants to protect humanity from the princess in the tower. T. Kingfisher is fabulous at turning fairytales on their head and humanizing characters you may have never thought about before.

Admin/Behind-the-Scenes Stuff

  • Decided to push my release date of TRF to January 2026
  • Managed to keep my mental health out of the trash
  • Played a lot of Tiny Bookshop
  • Survived my first week back at work
  • Made/juggled a bunch of appointments for my partner
  • Set up my Blackboard accounts for my classes
  • Fixed my syllabi for my classes

Blogs


Writing

This month writing went really, really well. I always struggle during the first act of books, but now that I am squarely in the second act, things are getting going. I really like this draft so far, and I think you all will too. One thing that I was grappling with is not being able to finish The Reanimator’s Fate by the end of the year. December is a particularly hard month for sales, and due to that and because I want to give myself some cushion, I am going to release book 4 in January. Part of me was quite upset that I wouldn’t have a book release this year, but that is a goal I set myself, not anything required of me. And because this book is coming out so early, there’s a good chance that I will release another (probably Flowers and Flourishing’s rewrite) during 2026. I appreciate all of you and your patience as I’m working on this book.


Hopes for September

  • Write 20,000 words of TRF
  • Work more on F&F rewrite
  • Set up my goals for Q4
  • Cover reveal
  • Set up preorder for TRF
  • Stay on top of grading
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • Send out newsletter

Writing

Dear Young Authors

For the past two weeks, I have spent more hours than I would care to admit watching videos about the Audra Winter situation. If you don’t know, Audra Winter is a 22 year old queer, autistic author who girl bossed to close to the sun, and through hubris and a lack of experience, she went from being a Tiktok marketing sensation who got 6,000 preorders on a sight unseen book to someone people are begging to listen and drop her ego because she doesn’t have the skill to back it up. BookLoverLaura‘s videos do a good job of capturing the whole situation. As a fellow queer autistic who made writing their whole personality in my younger years, I see a lot of my younger self in Audra, so I wanted to talk about some lessons I learned that might help other young authors along the way and things I wish I realized sooner.

  1. Don’t make your book/writing your whole personality– This often comes from a place of passion, which is great, but you are more than your book or your love of writing. Making your book or writing your whole personality becomes a problem when you start viewing any criticism of your book or process as a direct attack against you. Learn to separate your identity from your book or writing productivity. A secondary issue with this arises when you need to take a break or want to do something besides writing. If your entire identity is tied to one thing and you stop doing that thing, you are going to spiral. Staking your identity and self-worth on other people’s validation or one activity is a good way to set yourself up for mental health problems and an identity crisis in the future. As an aside, you are also probably insufferable to others if this is the only thing you do or talk about. Variety of interests is always a good thing. Be colorful.
  2. Younger isn’t always better.– Something I regret is publishing my first book at 23. The years between 23 and 25 provided a lot of growth for me as a writer and as a person. I think if I had waited a little longer, I could have made my first book even stronger structurally and emotionally. As much as I like it and am proud of 23 year old me, it makes me cringe to read now, which is to be expected as I have grown as an author. At the time I was writing it, I definitely had a chip on my shoulder and had plenty of things to work through as a person that hindered my writing in ways I didn’t understand at the time. Society pushes that younger is better and that “prodigies” are special, but authorship is a marathon, not a sprint. You want to create a sustainable writing career, and the younger you are, the more foolish you are and the more likely you are to tank your career over something you would never do as a more mature adult.
  3. Listen to other people!- One of the biggest frustration points with the Audra Winter situation is that she refuses to listen to anyone. You are not the first author to do something, and if everyone is doing something differently than you, there may be a reason for it. When you’re young, there’s often a feeling that you are special and doing things no one has ever done before, but in reality, you just have no idea what you’re talking about and don’t know enough to know what you don’t know. Inexperience breeds hubris. There are TONS of resources online for new authors to help them with writing, publishing, managing money, etc. Use those resources and ask authors who are more experienced than you rather than reinventing the wheel. Most authors are more than willing to point a newbie in the right direction, but if you come off as an arrogant tool, no one will want to help you. In regards to editors, you may not agree with everything they say, but if multiple people (betas, editors, readers, etc.) say the same thing, you need to tamp down your knee-jerk reaction to the feedback and see if they are right. Editors are trying to make your book better, and you will get called out if you ignore obvious issues in your books.
  4. You are not entitled to an audience or career.– I really hate pity marketing, which is when people post things like, hinting that people not buying your books makes you want to off yourself, “The tiktok algorithm keeps hiding my posts. Like and share to help me become a six figure author,” or even, “Support me because here are things the haters are saying about me.” It’s also those videos where it shows someone sitting at a table at Barnes and Noble with no one buying a book in order to guilt-trip people into supporting them. Tonally, there is a difference between this and talking about the realities of being an author. The latter doesn’t ask the viewer to buy anything or follow them. There will be times where a convention doesn’t work out or you sell zero books in a month, but you are not entitled to a following or an audience. Cultivating an audience is a two way street. The author has to create something of value for their audience and earn the audience’s trust by putting out repeated books that are of good quality, don’t feel scammy, and meet their readers’ expectations. If you don’t do those things, no one will want to read your work. Often, authors aren’t attracting the audience that fits with their books due to bad marketing, so you need to do things that will attract those people. Ultimately, whether you get an audience is partly due to algorithms and luck online and partly due to how you present yourself and your books to the world. You are not entitled to anyone’s time, money, or attention.
  5. Don’t expect your income to continually grow every month.- There’s an expectation that businesses will grow in an upward diagonal line, but that isn’t how it works, especially as an author. Your income will yo-yo. There are slow points during the year where sales dip and times where they boom, and if you do sales or bundles, you will often see hills and valleys. There are times when releases don’t make as much money off the bat as you expect or the algorithms change and you see a dip in sales. These things are going to happen. You need to brace yourself for really low income months and spend your money assuming the highs are not going to last. Audra Winter made a ton of money on preorders, and she immediately incorporated into an LLC on the assumption that the money would continue to roll in. There’s a 99% chance it will not continue at that magnitude, so don’t put the cart before the horse and assume you are suddenly going to be successful forever. Virality doesn’t equal long-term success. Building a sustainable author career is key to avoiding burnout and expanding your readership, so focus on the long-term success, not short-term hills and valleys.

If you takeaway nothing else from this post, I hope my younger author friends remember that your author career is a marathon, not a sprint. Build a solid foundation rather than trying to do all the things or trying to go viral, and early success does not guarantee future success. Listen to others, and above all, be yourself/be a person with hobbies beyond writing.

Book Reviews

10 Books I’m Excited About in 2025/26

This week I thought I would make a little post about some books that I am really looking forward to that are coming out later this year or early next year. You will notice that the list skews toward traditional publishing, but this is because many indies do a very short preorder period or don’t announce their release dates that far ahead of time. Disclaimer: all links to the books are affiliate links, so if you purchase anything, I get a small kickback.

  1. Pantomime (#1) by L. R. Lam- If this book sounds familiar to you, it came out years ago and is being re-edited and released. This book was one of my absolute favorites when I read it in college. You have an intersex, trans MC who runs away from their family and societal expectations to join the circus and discover themselves. Throw in a dose of magic, romance, and danger, and Pantomime is a must-read. Out 9/9/25
  2. To Clutch a Razor (#2) by Veronica Roth- I have been on a bit of Veronica Roth short book/story kick, and I am dying to get my hands on this one. You have magical Chicago filled with Slavic magic and creatures, a queer MC, horrific family obligations, and a cast of intriguing characters, and this series is un-put-down-able. Out 9/16/25
  3. What Stalks the Deep (#3) by T. Kingfisher- I absolutely love this series. It’s horror that is gross yet intriguing without being too scary for chickens like me. The main character is a nonbinary soldier in the 1800s, and in this edition, Alex is headed to America to go to a spooky mine that is probably filled with horrors. If you enjoy Jordan L. Hawk’s books, I highly recommend this series. Out 9/30/25
  4. America’s Most Gothic: Haunted History Stranger than Fiction by Leanna Renee Hieber and Andrea Janes- I absolutely loved their first book, A Haunted History of Invisible Women. This volume goes into the parts of the Gothic that titillate us and explores the real history that is potentially far spookier and fascinating. Hieber and Janes have a lively style that is all at once informative and entertaining. Out 9/30/25
  5. All of Us Murderers by K. J. Charles- Maybe I am biased but I don’t think K. J. Charles has written a bad book yet. This one takes us to a Gothic manor where a fight over a young ward’s hand turns murderous and scorn queer lovers reunite. It sounds chef kiss and messy, and if you are into Gothic vibes, the cover for this book is right on the money. Out 10/7/25
  6. A Mouthful of Dust (#6) by Nghi Vo- The Singing Hills Cycle is one of my favorite series, and this one sounds a little similar to the K. J. Charles book in terms of creepiness of houses. Chih is trapped in the house of a sinister magistrate in a town where famine has hit hard and the things beyond and within the walls are growing hungry. If you like lush yet economical stories, Vo’s work is top knotch. Out 10/7/25
  7. The Everlasting by Alix E. Harrow- We have a lady knight, a historian, and time doing weird shit to ensure she plays her role. This is based off a short story Harrow published a few years ago that I absolutely devoured. I am dying to get my hands on this, especially because I have been in a medieval mood, so I hope this scratches that itch. Out 10/28/25
  8. A Wild and Hungry Place by E. E. Ottoman- It has been quite some time since Ottoman published, and I am so excited. His books are filled with trans characters, rich descriptions, and stories that tug at the heartstrings and soul. This one has a woman trying to break a curse, a man with a garden full of poisonous plants, and a ghost woman. What else could one want?
  9. The Wolf and His King by Finn Longman- I am including this one because it was originally scheduled to come out in November but was pushed back to January of 2026. This is a retelling of “Bisclavret” by Marie de France, and as a Marie de France fan, I am so in. Of course, this book is queer, has werewolves, knights, kings, magic, and so much more. Out 1/26/26
  10. Through Gates of Garnets and Gold (#11) by Seanan McGuire- If you haven’t read The Wayward Children series, now is the perfect time to start. Nancy, who is the MC of book one, finally is getting her own book! I am so excited to return to the Halls of the Dead with Nancy and the misfit crew from the school for wayward children. This is one of those settings that sounded so intriguing even though we saw little of it, and I look forward to what McGuire creates in this one. Out 1/6/26
Personal Life

On False Crabs and Real People

Right now, in the US and UK especially there is a ton of transphobia, and every time I hear cis people being weird about trans people, I think of king crabs. Yes, crabs. Now, bear with me because this will make sense.

So you know king crabs, right? Giant crab, long legs, lives in very cold water up north for the most part, you find them in seafood boil bags, very expensive and tasty, a star of Deadliest Catch. Well, did you know that king crabs aren’t technically crabs?

Now, the thing with crabs is that they are an optimal life form: the perfect shape, the right amount of agile and little guy, can fit into many ecological niches while being able to survive well. Over eons, you had crabs evolve, but you also had convergent evolution where other things also evolved into crabs. If you look at crabs closer, you will notice that there are different infraorders in regards to their classification. You have true crabs, which are infraorder brachyura and are the original crab lineage. Then, you have false crabs, which belong in the infraorder anomura and have evolved to look and be like crabs.

Can the general public tell a true crab from a false crab? No. If it has the right amount of legs, looks crab shaped, and acts like a crab, it is for all intents and purposes, a crab.

People don’t go to a seafood restaurant and get upset because king crab is listed in the selections of crabs or in the crab tank with the other crabs when it’s a false crab because it is identified as a crab. If you went into a seafood market and started checking to see if the crabs were true crabs or false crabs by flipping them over and checking their abdomens for any remnants of the tail false crabs have, people would think there was something wrong with you and kick you out. That’s basically how transphobes and terfs behave. They just heard about false crabs, so now, they need to disturb everyone by checking all the crabs in the tank under the guise of safety when all the crabs were fine mingling together. The panic over true and false is made up.

The only people who really care about the difference between true crabs and false crabs are scientists who are looking at very specific parameters in their studies, and this is how it should be with cis and trans people. Medical professionals or scientists who study differences in hormones or anatomy, probably need to know, but for the vast majority of people, there is no difference and it isn’t their business. And once hormones/hormone replacement therapy gets involved and levels are stable for a while, there is very little difference between binary trans people and cis people.

And even without hormones, if a person decides to change their clothes and name to socially transition, then respect them; it isn’t hard. If you would not pop the shell off a hermit crab and declare to everyone that isn’t a true crab and shouldn’t be called a hermit crab or allowed a shell, then don’t call out people for being trans in a negative way. Yes, hermit crabs, one of the most famous crabs, is a false crab. It has a tail inside its shell.

Horseshoe crabs do not pass very well as crabs. They are shaped like a toilet seat and have a long tail and look nothing like a crab apart from their legs, and yet we still call them crabs without any fuss. It truly isn’t hard to respect what something or someone is called.

The thing with crabs is that creatures evolve into them because it is beneficial to their survival and being trans is the same way. People transition because it is the thing that will keep them alive. It is beneficial to their soul and mental and physical health. Just because they didn’t start out that way doesn’t mean it isn’t better for them to change and become something new.

If someone says they are a woman or a man or nonbinary or anything in between, respect it and acknowledge it because if you can manage to call anything remotely crab-shaped a crab, then congrats, you can respect a trans person’s gender and identity no matter how well they perform their gender.

Monthly Review

July 2025 Wrap-Up Post

July was one of those months where I feel like I didn’t get a lot done, but it’s because I was mostly focused on one thing, well two things: not losing my marbles with *gestures to the US* and writing The Reanimator’s Fate. As a refresher, here were my goals for July:

  • Write at least 20,000 words of TRF
  • Set up the preorder for TRF
  • Work a little on the rewrite of F&F
  • Manage my stress better as a USian living in this hellscape
  • Keep up with my bullet journal better
  • Catch up with my cross-stitch
  • Enjoy my birthday
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • send out my monthly newsletter

Books

My goal was to read 8 books, and I read 9 during July.

  1. The Ancient Magus’s Bride (#20) by Kore Yamazaki- 4 stars, in this volume we are heading into a new arc at the college where the families are coming together and the kids are going to be stuck in another power play. I’m interested to see where this new arc goes.
  2. Six Crimson Cranes (#1) by Elizabeth Lim- 4 stars, a princess realizes her stepmother is actually an evil snake, witch person who turns her six brothers into cranes and makes it so the princess cannot speak about her past without killing her brothers. While in exile, they struggle to break the curse and defeat their stepmother with the help of the princess’s betrothed (who doesn’t recognize her) and a dragon.
  3. Ark by Veronica Roth- 5 stars, the world is ending and the only people left behind are those working on a seed bank that they will take from earth to their new outer space home. It’s a story about loss, futures, and what is truly important. It is very short, but I LOVED it immensely.
  4. Void by Veronica Roth- 4 stars, a murder mystery on a space cruise that has some interesting wibbly wobbly timey wimey stuff going on. I won’t say more to avoid spoilers, but it was also quite good.
  5. Therapy Game Restart (#5) by Meguru Hinohara- 5 stars, in this volume, the one MC is doing a photoshoot for the drag queens at his job at a beautiful location, which turns steamy with his boyfriend after they haven’t been able to have any time together. It is a very sweet and steamy volume, and I absolutely love seeing these two navigate a new world together. There are also more hints about a trans side character that is quite interesting.
  6. Copper Script by KJ Charles- 5 stars, an amputee graphologist falls in with a honest, straight-laced police detective who must solve a mystery together while navigating anti-queer historical sentiment, mobsters, and a crooked cop in high places. I really enjoyed this story and how much of London at this time period we get, especially the diversity of it.
  7. Masked City (#2) by Genevieve Cogman- 3 stars, a world-hopping librarian and her dragon librarian trainee sidekick get more than they bargained for when stealing a book turns into a kidnapping. Kai, the dragon, gets taken to a chaos world of fae where our librarian must find him before the magic breaks all of them and sets them on a crash course with fae who would happily sacrifice them like pawns.
  8. Compulsy (#0.5) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, a little prequel to Murder Bot. I bought the box set for the first half of the series and dipped my toe in by reading this short. I’m eager to read the others and get more of our sardonic but good hearted murder bot.
  9. Fence: Challengers (#7) by C. S. Pacat and Johanna the Mad- 4 stars, the boys are now at a fencing competition where they need to face rivals, be strategic, and perhaps figure out where they stand with each other. This is sort of a bridge/filler volume, so it is a little slower than others but not bad.

Admin/Behind-the-Scenes Stuff

  • Was on the Trope-ology Podcast and talked about hurt-comfort
  • Had a lovely and relaxing birthday
  • Ventured to the DMV in person (bleck) and renewed my license
  • Actively tried to pace myself to avoid burnout
  • Managed to catch up with my bullet journaling
  • Finally hit my stride with TRF (this was my main focus this month)
  • Blogged weekly
  • Sent out my monthly newsletter

Blog


Writing

I figured now was a good time to give a bit of a writing update about book 4 since it’s been a while. Usually by now I would have a cover reveal and a preorder for the next Reanimator Mysteries book up by now, and frankly, that has been weighing on me. Earlier this year, I had a few setbacks writing it. Initially, I was absolutely fried. With the US election going the way it did and then just being tired from writing, it took longer than usual to get a plot together. As soon as I thought I had an idea, I jumped into writing it only to belatedly realize it wasn’t working. I ended up having to completely restart the draft of TRF from scratch. It was the best option, but it also set me back by like 2-3 months, so more than likely, book 4 won’t be out until the end of November or beginning of December. I don’t want to set a preorder for it until I’m a bit farther along and better gauge when it will be finished since pushing preorder dates out can be dicey.

What I can tell you is that I am really happy with how this draft is turning out (especially compared to the previous one), and that hopefully by the end of August, I will have a preorder and possibly a cover. We’ll see about that one as I don’t ever want to rush my designer who has been very understanding about me having to push things back. In July, I was able to write a significant amount, all of which works well and has been edited, so the draft is rather clean this far. This book starts with a bit of a groutesque bang that I hope all my book lovers will appreciate 😉 More than anything, I want this to be the ending Oliver, Felipe, Gwen, and my readers deserve, so I hope you will hang in there while I make it as good as possible for you all.


Hopes for August

  • Write 20,000 words of TRF
  • Get my book cover stuff in order for TRF
  • Attempt to work on the F&F rewrite
  • Make my syllabi for my classes
  • Set up my Blackboards for my classes
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • Send out newsletter

Writing

Join Me on the Trope-ology Podcast

This week I had the pleasure of chatting with Chris (@themythofChris) on their podcast, The Trope-ology Podcast, to discuss my favorite trope, hurt-comfort. I had an absolute blast, and instead of a blog post this week, I hope you will check out this episode where we discuss the psychological pay-off of hurt-comfort, how it relates to disability and chronic illness, the intimacy of being seen, why having needs (big and small met) matters of much in this trope, and of course, a TON of great book recs.

After my conversation with Chris, I think I added like 10 books to my tbr. I have embedded the episode below or you can check it out through the link above, and I hope you will follow Chris and her podcast as well because it’s a lot of fun and features some fabulous authors.

Writing

Do You Need a MFA to Write?

Many writers hear this from teachers or other writing professionals: if you want to be a writer, you need an MFA in creative writing. As someone with an MFA in Creative and Professional Writing, I am here to say you absolutely do not need one with some caveats and things to consider.

My first question to you is, do you want to teach creative writing? One of the most useful things to me that I got out of my MFA program was the pedagogy aspect. I think I took 2 or 3 classes on teaching as a discipline and had at least one creative writing class where creating lesson plans was a larger component of the class. Teaching writing and literature classes was a major thing I wanted to do, so getting an MFA in creative writing gives me more legitimacy in academia. I would also say if you started a Youtube channel or wanted to teach a course or do book doctoring/coaching, having an MFA does add a layer of authority. If you don’t plan to teach writing in some form, you don’t need it. Everything else can be learned through other avenues, many of which are free.

My next question would be do you want to write literary fiction? The reason I ask this is because a lot of programs only focus on literary fiction or delineate that they don’t accept genre fiction. I was in a rather lit fic-focused program, but I was lucky enough to have a professor who writes crime fiction as my first teacher at this program who was incredibly affirming and loved my work. If I had gotten a different professor first, I may not have had as solid of an ego foundation as I did, and being forced to write only lit fic would have upset me as would the patronizing tone of some of the teachers when discussing genre fiction elements. If you are thinking about going into an MFA program as a genre fiction writer, you need to take a long, hard look at the programs you’re applying to and if you can handle people wrongly ragging on your genre of choice. It can shake your confidence and derail the progress you have made.

My experience with my MFA program was a mixed bag. I had a handful of professors who were absolutely fantastic (one was a poet and the other a crime fiction writer especially were amazing) while a few others were horrible (a different poet and the head of the program who was supposedly a fiction writer). The things I really didn’t enjoy about it and that are fairly common with these programs is that there is a heavy emphasis on literary fiction and traditional publishing. This can shut out genre fiction writers or self-publishing writers who don’t feel like they are part of this world or that no matter what they do, it isn’t enough. Truthfully, I don’t like to send my shorter works to literary magazines because there’s little eyeball traffic and no money, and I need to feed my dogs. A lot of what MFA programs promote are prestige-based, so writing for the love of it rather than being paid fairly. Privilege is rife in these programs, and unless you can get into a fully paid program, I don’t recommend dropping tens of thousands of dollars to learn things you could easily find on the internet or in craft books. Also, keep in mind that many MFA programs are also literature focused, so you may be required to take master’s degree level literature classes. If you aren’t an English major or have a literature background, you might struggle. At the same time, there are a few things MFA programs do well that you can replicate on your own with a group.

The two strong suits that I found with my program (besides the teaching portion) were editing and critique groups. These sort of feed off of each other. As a writer, I highly recommend finding a structured critique group to help you get good feedback on your work. I have a blog about this already, which will help you know what to look for with a critique group. These groups should be of people who are at your level or slightly above to help you learn what works and what doesn’t with your work, and it should be consistent in order for you to get the most out of it. Because you get so much feedback in an MFA program as most classes have workshop portions, you end up focusing a lot on editing. The biggest takeaway from these programs is that writing is a process. The process, not the end product, is important. You need to learn your craft, write, edit, write more, edit more, etc. That is something I 100% stand by and agree with. After getting feedback from your workshop group, you need to learn to filter out feedback and figure out what works best for you, what fits with your story, and when you are being oversensitive when it comes to feedback. I haven’t necessarily found a good resource for this online, but I think you need to have thick skin but, more importantly, a clear picture of what you want your story to look like in the end. If you don’t have a vision, you will get led around by the feedback others give you, and they may not be your intended audience.

Once you’ve gotten some feedback from others, I highly recommend doing craft work in the areas that you struggle with, like dialogue, grammar, making things sound natural, writing descriptions, creating mood, etc. There are a lot of great thesaurus style books online that you can buy that help you with conflict, setting, emotional threads, etc. that I highly recommend if you need a reference book to aid you in developing those aspects. I would also suggest checking out Sarra Cannon’s Youtube channel HeartBreathings as she talks a lot about writing as a business and as a writer. She makes some fantastic worksheets and videos to aid in structuring your book and writing your characters’ journeys. These are actually things my MFA program didn’t cover at all, so I ended up relying on Sarra’s videos during my time in grad school. I also have a Pinterest board that has a ton of helpful goodies about writing.

The most important thing I would like you to focus on is figuring out what works best for you and your process. Becoming a writer is a marathon, not a sprint, so finding sustainable habits is key to not burning out. I want you all to succeed and go on to having fulfilling writing careers, no matter what that looks like, and to do that, you need to care for your body and mind first. Take care of your hands (stretch, think ergonomics, don’t keep writing if they hurt). Don’t shrimp (get an ergonomic chair or sit in a comfortable position, straight and stretch once in a while or get a walking desk). And most importantly, you can push back a deadline far easier than you can push off burnout. The key to a long career isn’t an MFA, it’s figuring out the best path for you, whether it’s traditional or self-publishing, being true to your vision, taking feedback, and continually growing as an author while still making sure to care for your body and mind.

Writing

No, You Shouldn’t Use AI, Even on the Small Stuff

If you’ve followed me on social media for longer than a few days, you know I hate AI. I am morally opposed on every level to AI because it not only destroys the environment but is a tool of fascism. As much as I would like to word vomit about that, instead, I would like to speak about why writers shouldn’t use AI, even for seemingly minor details as so many AI-using authors claim to do.

Here’s the thing, there are no truly minor details or unimportant parts of a book as everything needs to further the characterization and mood of the story.

I can already feel some writers rolling their eyes at that. Feel free to do so at your own peril. Writers who are willing to hand over parts of their project to AI to “free up their time” to do other things should instead look at their relationship to hustle culture and why they have chosen quantity over quality. Hustle culture is rife in the writing world with many author groups pushing a churn and burn mentality where authors need to publish every 3 months or be lost to irrelevancy. If you go onto Amazon’s top 100 category boards for books on writing, you’ll find books about writing more or writing faster. While those can be useful, writing more isn’t the same as writing good or better books. The hustle side of the writing world stresses that readers don’t care about the books themselves. They’ll read anything as long as it checks off a few boxes for them, and that once you have hooked them, readers will come back every 90 days to choke down whatever book you throw at them.

I despise this mentality. For one, it is patronizing to readers. Readers won’t stick around if your book sucks or if the quality goes down over time. We’ve seen this with readers noticing an author with a massive backlist has turned to AI, and they abandon them when the writing becomes nonsensical or the quality change becomes noticeably bad. I don’t like when authors treat their readers like shit or take advantage of them by assuming they will always be there no matter how they treat them or how crappy their books are. If you’re a writer, I believe you should write for yourself first, but anything you sell to readers should be the best it could possibly be for them since they’re the ones supporting you monetarily.

What I hate even more about the hustle culture mentality is the way corporate speak has made its way into creative fields. Creativity can and should make you money. Artists should be paid fairly for their work and be able to make a stable living off of it. At the same time, I don’t think creativity should be treated like a business in the way that corporations expect exponential growth at all times. It is unsustainable. We cannot write more books every single year and increase our yearly word counts exponentially. It is impossible and will quickly lead to burn out and quality loss. In order to meet these unsustainable quotas, authors turn to AI because others have convinced them that if they outsource the tedious parts of writing to the machine, they will free up time to write more of the things they enjoy or just write faster. The problem is that those tedious parts aren’t useless; everything in your book should serve a purpose.

What many of these “write more in less time” gurus purposely ignore is writing as a craft. There is almost no discussion of how to make your writing better, only how to do it faster. If they did care about craft, none of them would be suggesting using AI. As someone who teaches young writers how to better their work, every piece of writing I have seen from AI is far worse and emptier than anything brand new writers in my classes have come up with. AI writing is confusing, devoid of charm or character, and just flat-out bad. 0/10 do not recommend using it because it will take way more time to edit than just writing something yourself. A study with people who code showed that while they thought they were taking less time using AI, they were actually taking longer because they had to review it, fix it, etc (source). This is on top of the environmental harm, the fact that it is a tool of fascism, and a plagiarism machine.

The thing that a lot of writers using AI for the “boring parts” don’t seem to understand is that the minor details are incredibly important to your story. One of my most hated posts online is the whole, “Only English teachers care that the drapes are blue. They’re just blue. The author just gave it a random color. It isn’t that deep.” Sure, that can be true occasionally, but 99% of your descriptions and details should be purposeful. When you are creating a world, even if a story takes place in the real world, you are building a microcosm specific to your characters and the story you are telling. Therefore, there is an added level of cohesion and purpose in those details that might not appear in our material reality. When you are setting the scene, you need to think about how you want the reader to feel while interacting with this part of the world, how the structure fits the function of this setting, and how the point of view character effects the way the world is interpreted or experienced. For example, a character with a phobia of dentists is going to view, experience, and describe a dental office differently than someone who doesn’t think getting their teeth cleaned is a traumatic experience. If you just let AI fill in the description of the dental office, you are losing that context. Even if the character isn’t scared of it, they will still notice details other characters won’t, and while you’re writing your story, that should be something you focus on.

The other place I’ve heard people using AI for “busy work” in books is dialogue. This really makes no sense to me because dialogue is one of the best ways to insert characterization, motivation, and movement into a story. Even if you feed a chat bot relevant information about your character, it isn’t going to understand the context of your work and anything about the character below a surface level. Any dialogue it spits out will be generic, boring, and probably ill-fitting for the moment. This is one of those situations where editing extensively will be necessary and will probably take longer than just writing it yourself.

But what if I’m stuck? Why can’t I just use AI to fill in the gap for me?

Because that’s cheating! It’s cheating yourself out of using your brain to puzzle out what should go next. It’s like saying, “I find this exercise hard, so I’m going to use a motor to move the dumbbell for me.” It isn’t going to help you, and at some point, your writing muscles are going to shrink and atrophy until you can’t write anything without constantly circling back to AI. Using AI long-term causes cognitive problems (source). If you continually use it to help write your books, you will become more dependent on it and eventually get worse at writing. The best way to combat this is to face the things that challenge you head-on. Why are you stuck on this dialogue? Why do you struggle with description? Do you not know when you need to add it, or do you simply need some resources to help you name things?

There are a ton of writing resources online made by authors for authors, many of which are free. Instead of using AI, slow down and invest time and effort into getting better at your craft. I know hustle culture says write more, write faster, publish quicker, but the best way to get ahead as a writer is to take time for yourself and do things to be a better writer. Sometimes, that looks like taking a break to read good books, watch shows that stoke that creative fire, do other crafts to refill your well. Other times, it’s dissecting how other authors write well and figuring out how to do that in your own way. Writing takes work, and work means effort on your part. Using AI to write the things that you struggle with or find boring means that you are cheating yourself out of the opportunity to learn, grow, and become a better writer. Before you run to ChatGPT for help when you get stuck, look up a resource on Google that can help you with this particular thing. If you are struggling, others have too, and there’s a 90% chance that someone has made something to help you figure it out on your own.

Monthly Review

June 2025 Wrap-Up Post

Part of me would love to say that this month went really well because I got quite a bit of writing done, but the other part of me looks at the dumpster fire and chaos around me and feels otherwise. Either way, I am happy that I feel like I have finally found my stride with The Reanimator’s Fate. Let’s look at our goals for June before we get started.

  • Write at least 20,000 words of The Reanimator’s Fate (TRM #4)
  • Try to write every single day at least a little to be consistent
  • Get the audiobook for The Reanimator’s Remains (TRM #3) out everywhere
  • Maintain my mental health and balancing my writing and hobbies to avoid burnout
  • Catch up on my stitch-a-long
  • Exercise consistently
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • Send out my monthly newsletter
  • Enjoy my 20th anniversary with my partner

Books

My goal was to read 8 books, and I read exactly 8.

  1. The Gentle Art of Fortune Hunting (#1) by KJ Charles- 5 stars, two fortune hunting but charming young people come to London hoping to find stability and find more than they bargained for when the young man sets his sights on the well-off niece of a cranky brewer only to fall for the brewer instead.
  2. Iris Kelly Doesn’t Date (#3) by Ashley Herring Blake- 4 stars, Iris has sworn off love after too many failed relationships while Stevie is trying to get back into the dating world after leaving a long-term relationship. When anxiety wrecks a one night stand with Iris, Stevie thinks she’ll never see her again until they end up in the same queer community theater production.
  3. The Other World’s Books Depend on the Bean Counter (#3) by Yatsuki Wakatsu- 4 stars, an accountant ends up accidentally ending up in a new world along with the woman fated to save it only to find out he’s allergic to magic and the only one who can keep him safe is a very serious, slightly overprotective knight. The world’s books are a mess, and they may be the key to saving the kingdom.
  4. The Other World’s Books Depend on the Bean Counter (#4) by Yatsuki Wakatsu- 4 stars, see above.
  5. The Other World’s Books Depend on the Bean Counter (#5) by Yatsuki Wakatsu- 5 stars, see above.
  6. I Hear the Sunspot: Four Seasons (#3) by Yuki Fumino- 4 stars, a hard-of-hearing man joins a new company only to realize he’s stepped in it in regards to one of his coworkers. Meanwhile, his boyfriend is struggling with his own issues at work and how to deal with being a queer person.
  7. The Duke at Hazard (#2) by KJ Charles- 4 stars, a duke ends up duped out of his signet ring and goes on a mission, while incognito, to find it only to run into a ruined noble who might be the key to helping him find it.
  8. Mr. Collins in Love by Lee Welch- 4 stars, a very sympathetic retelling of Pride and Prejudice from Mr. Collins’s point of view where he is neurodivergent and struggling to maintain the life he desperately wants to keep. His life changes for the better when he runs into his childhood best friend only to realize it runs up against his patroness’s desire for him to find a wife.

Admin/Behind-the-Scenes Stuff

  • Wrote the initial blurb for The Reanimator’s Fate
  • Published The Reanimator’s Remains (TRM #3) on Amazon, Audible, Apple Books, Spotify, Chirp, Nook, Kobo, LibroFM, library systems, and every other major audiobook platform
  • Enjoyed my 20th anniversary with my partner
  • Got my partner’s blood work done (this gets a spot here because it was an ordeal)
  • Made my goals for Q3
  • Edited someone else’s book
  • Took a weight-lifting hiatus due to the heat
  • Played Coral Island extensively to maintain my sanity
  • Incessantly bothered my senators and congress person
  • Fell even further behind on my stitch-a-long project (oops)

Blogs


Writing

While I didn’t hit my goal for the month, I did write quite a bit and feel like I’ve finally hit my stride. The beginnings of books are where I struggle most. It feels like there are so many paths open that it is overwhelming to me. By the time I hit the end of act 1, I find my footing, and my daily word counts get progressively larger. Part of the problem is that the #3.5 short story took longer to write than I expected, and then, I had to restart the beginning of TRF because I didn’t like it. This version is significantly better, and I will not yeet this draft into the void. Oliver and Felipe are dealing with a case of death by book while also grappling with librarians being weird, buildings with a mind of their own, and of course, their own neuroses getting the better of them. Next month, I will have more to show you and talk about, so stay tuned.


Hopes for July

  • Write at least 20,000 words of TRF
  • Set up the preorder for TRF
  • Work a little on the rewrite of F&F
  • Manage my stress better as a USian living in this hellscape
  • Keep up with my bullet journal better
  • Catch up with my cross-stitch
  • Enjoy my birthday
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • send out my monthly newsletter