Personal Life

On False Crabs and Real People

Right now, in the US and UK especially there is a ton of transphobia, and every time I hear cis people being weird about trans people, I think of king crabs. Yes, crabs. Now, bear with me because this will make sense.

So you know king crabs, right? Giant crab, long legs, lives in very cold water up north for the most part, you find them in seafood boil bags, very expensive and tasty, a star of Deadliest Catch. Well, did you know that king crabs aren’t technically crabs?

Now, the thing with crabs is that they are an optimal life form: the perfect shape, the right amount of agile and little guy, can fit into many ecological niches while being able to survive well. Over eons, you had crabs evolve, but you also had convergent evolution where other things also evolved into crabs. If you look at crabs closer, you will notice that there are different infraorders in regards to their classification. You have true crabs, which are infraorder brachyura and are the original crab lineage. Then, you have false crabs, which belong in the infraorder anomura and have evolved to look and be like crabs.

Can the general public tell a true crab from a false crab? No. If it has the right amount of legs, looks crab shaped, and acts like a crab, it is for all intents and purposes, a crab.

People don’t go to a seafood restaurant and get upset because king crab is listed in the selections of crabs or in the crab tank with the other crabs when it’s a false crab because it is identified as a crab. If you went into a seafood market and started checking to see if the crabs were true crabs or false crabs by flipping them over and checking their abdomens for any remnants of the tail false crabs have, people would think there was something wrong with you and kick you out. That’s basically how transphobes and terfs behave. They just heard about false crabs, so now, they need to disturb everyone by checking all the crabs in the tank under the guise of safety when all the crabs were fine mingling together. The panic over true and false is made up.

The only people who really care about the difference between true crabs and false crabs are scientists who are looking at very specific parameters in their studies, and this is how it should be with cis and trans people. Medical professionals or scientists who study differences in hormones or anatomy, probably need to know, but for the vast majority of people, there is no difference and it isn’t their business. And once hormones/hormone replacement therapy gets involved and levels are stable for a while, there is very little difference between binary trans people and cis people.

And even without hormones, if a person decides to change their clothes and name to socially transition, then respect them; it isn’t hard. If you would not pop the shell off a hermit crab and declare to everyone that isn’t a true crab and shouldn’t be called a hermit crab or allowed a shell, then don’t call out people for being trans in a negative way. Yes, hermit crabs, one of the most famous crabs, is a false crab. It has a tail inside its shell.

Horseshoe crabs do not pass very well as crabs. They are shaped like a toilet seat and have a long tail and look nothing like a crab apart from their legs, and yet we still call them crabs without any fuss. It truly isn’t hard to respect what something or someone is called.

The thing with crabs is that creatures evolve into them because it is beneficial to their survival and being trans is the same way. People transition because it is the thing that will keep them alive. It is beneficial to their soul and mental and physical health. Just because they didn’t start out that way doesn’t mean it isn’t better for them to change and become something new.

If someone says they are a woman or a man or nonbinary or anything in between, respect it and acknowledge it because if you can manage to call anything remotely crab-shaped a crab, then congrats, you can respect a trans person’s gender and identity no matter how well they perform their gender.

Monthly Review

July 2025 Wrap-Up Post

July was one of those months where I feel like I didn’t get a lot done, but it’s because I was mostly focused on one thing, well two things: not losing my marbles with *gestures to the US* and writing The Reanimator’s Fate. As a refresher, here were my goals for July:

  • Write at least 20,000 words of TRF
  • Set up the preorder for TRF
  • Work a little on the rewrite of F&F
  • Manage my stress better as a USian living in this hellscape
  • Keep up with my bullet journal better
  • Catch up with my cross-stitch
  • Enjoy my birthday
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • send out my monthly newsletter

Books

My goal was to read 8 books, and I read 9 during July.

  1. The Ancient Magus’s Bride (#20) by Kore Yamazaki- 4 stars, in this volume we are heading into a new arc at the college where the families are coming together and the kids are going to be stuck in another power play. I’m interested to see where this new arc goes.
  2. Six Crimson Cranes (#1) by Elizabeth Lim- 4 stars, a princess realizes her stepmother is actually an evil snake, witch person who turns her six brothers into cranes and makes it so the princess cannot speak about her past without killing her brothers. While in exile, they struggle to break the curse and defeat their stepmother with the help of the princess’s betrothed (who doesn’t recognize her) and a dragon.
  3. Ark by Veronica Roth- 5 stars, the world is ending and the only people left behind are those working on a seed bank that they will take from earth to their new outer space home. It’s a story about loss, futures, and what is truly important. It is very short, but I LOVED it immensely.
  4. Void by Veronica Roth- 4 stars, a murder mystery on a space cruise that has some interesting wibbly wobbly timey wimey stuff going on. I won’t say more to avoid spoilers, but it was also quite good.
  5. Therapy Game Restart (#5) by Meguru Hinohara- 5 stars, in this volume, the one MC is doing a photoshoot for the drag queens at his job at a beautiful location, which turns steamy with his boyfriend after they haven’t been able to have any time together. It is a very sweet and steamy volume, and I absolutely love seeing these two navigate a new world together. There are also more hints about a trans side character that is quite interesting.
  6. Copper Script by KJ Charles- 5 stars, an amputee graphologist falls in with a honest, straight-laced police detective who must solve a mystery together while navigating anti-queer historical sentiment, mobsters, and a crooked cop in high places. I really enjoyed this story and how much of London at this time period we get, especially the diversity of it.
  7. Masked City (#2) by Genevieve Cogman- 3 stars, a world-hopping librarian and her dragon librarian trainee sidekick get more than they bargained for when stealing a book turns into a kidnapping. Kai, the dragon, gets taken to a chaos world of fae where our librarian must find him before the magic breaks all of them and sets them on a crash course with fae who would happily sacrifice them like pawns.
  8. Compulsy (#0.5) by Martha Wells- 4 stars, a little prequel to Murder Bot. I bought the box set for the first half of the series and dipped my toe in by reading this short. I’m eager to read the others and get more of our sardonic but good hearted murder bot.
  9. Fence: Challengers (#7) by C. S. Pacat and Johanna the Mad- 4 stars, the boys are now at a fencing competition where they need to face rivals, be strategic, and perhaps figure out where they stand with each other. This is sort of a bridge/filler volume, so it is a little slower than others but not bad.

Admin/Behind-the-Scenes Stuff

  • Was on the Trope-ology Podcast and talked about hurt-comfort
  • Had a lovely and relaxing birthday
  • Ventured to the DMV in person (bleck) and renewed my license
  • Actively tried to pace myself to avoid burnout
  • Managed to catch up with my bullet journaling
  • Finally hit my stride with TRF (this was my main focus this month)
  • Blogged weekly
  • Sent out my monthly newsletter

Blog


Writing

I figured now was a good time to give a bit of a writing update about book 4 since it’s been a while. Usually by now I would have a cover reveal and a preorder for the next Reanimator Mysteries book up by now, and frankly, that has been weighing on me. Earlier this year, I had a few setbacks writing it. Initially, I was absolutely fried. With the US election going the way it did and then just being tired from writing, it took longer than usual to get a plot together. As soon as I thought I had an idea, I jumped into writing it only to belatedly realize it wasn’t working. I ended up having to completely restart the draft of TRF from scratch. It was the best option, but it also set me back by like 2-3 months, so more than likely, book 4 won’t be out until the end of November or beginning of December. I don’t want to set a preorder for it until I’m a bit farther along and better gauge when it will be finished since pushing preorder dates out can be dicey.

What I can tell you is that I am really happy with how this draft is turning out (especially compared to the previous one), and that hopefully by the end of August, I will have a preorder and possibly a cover. We’ll see about that one as I don’t ever want to rush my designer who has been very understanding about me having to push things back. In July, I was able to write a significant amount, all of which works well and has been edited, so the draft is rather clean this far. This book starts with a bit of a groutesque bang that I hope all my book lovers will appreciate 😉 More than anything, I want this to be the ending Oliver, Felipe, Gwen, and my readers deserve, so I hope you will hang in there while I make it as good as possible for you all.


Hopes for August

  • Write 20,000 words of TRF
  • Get my book cover stuff in order for TRF
  • Attempt to work on the F&F rewrite
  • Make my syllabi for my classes
  • Set up my Blackboards for my classes
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • Send out newsletter

Writing

Join Me on the Trope-ology Podcast

This week I had the pleasure of chatting with Chris (@themythofChris) on their podcast, The Trope-ology Podcast, to discuss my favorite trope, hurt-comfort. I had an absolute blast, and instead of a blog post this week, I hope you will check out this episode where we discuss the psychological pay-off of hurt-comfort, how it relates to disability and chronic illness, the intimacy of being seen, why having needs (big and small met) matters of much in this trope, and of course, a TON of great book recs.

After my conversation with Chris, I think I added like 10 books to my tbr. I have embedded the episode below or you can check it out through the link above, and I hope you will follow Chris and her podcast as well because it’s a lot of fun and features some fabulous authors.

Writing

Do You Need a MFA to Write?

Many writers hear this from teachers or other writing professionals: if you want to be a writer, you need an MFA in creative writing. As someone with an MFA in Creative and Professional Writing, I am here to say you absolutely do not need one with some caveats and things to consider.

My first question to you is, do you want to teach creative writing? One of the most useful things to me that I got out of my MFA program was the pedagogy aspect. I think I took 2 or 3 classes on teaching as a discipline and had at least one creative writing class where creating lesson plans was a larger component of the class. Teaching writing and literature classes was a major thing I wanted to do, so getting an MFA in creative writing gives me more legitimacy in academia. I would also say if you started a Youtube channel or wanted to teach a course or do book doctoring/coaching, having an MFA does add a layer of authority. If you don’t plan to teach writing in some form, you don’t need it. Everything else can be learned through other avenues, many of which are free.

My next question would be do you want to write literary fiction? The reason I ask this is because a lot of programs only focus on literary fiction or delineate that they don’t accept genre fiction. I was in a rather lit fic-focused program, but I was lucky enough to have a professor who writes crime fiction as my first teacher at this program who was incredibly affirming and loved my work. If I had gotten a different professor first, I may not have had as solid of an ego foundation as I did, and being forced to write only lit fic would have upset me as would the patronizing tone of some of the teachers when discussing genre fiction elements. If you are thinking about going into an MFA program as a genre fiction writer, you need to take a long, hard look at the programs you’re applying to and if you can handle people wrongly ragging on your genre of choice. It can shake your confidence and derail the progress you have made.

My experience with my MFA program was a mixed bag. I had a handful of professors who were absolutely fantastic (one was a poet and the other a crime fiction writer especially were amazing) while a few others were horrible (a different poet and the head of the program who was supposedly a fiction writer). The things I really didn’t enjoy about it and that are fairly common with these programs is that there is a heavy emphasis on literary fiction and traditional publishing. This can shut out genre fiction writers or self-publishing writers who don’t feel like they are part of this world or that no matter what they do, it isn’t enough. Truthfully, I don’t like to send my shorter works to literary magazines because there’s little eyeball traffic and no money, and I need to feed my dogs. A lot of what MFA programs promote are prestige-based, so writing for the love of it rather than being paid fairly. Privilege is rife in these programs, and unless you can get into a fully paid program, I don’t recommend dropping tens of thousands of dollars to learn things you could easily find on the internet or in craft books. Also, keep in mind that many MFA programs are also literature focused, so you may be required to take master’s degree level literature classes. If you aren’t an English major or have a literature background, you might struggle. At the same time, there are a few things MFA programs do well that you can replicate on your own with a group.

The two strong suits that I found with my program (besides the teaching portion) were editing and critique groups. These sort of feed off of each other. As a writer, I highly recommend finding a structured critique group to help you get good feedback on your work. I have a blog about this already, which will help you know what to look for with a critique group. These groups should be of people who are at your level or slightly above to help you learn what works and what doesn’t with your work, and it should be consistent in order for you to get the most out of it. Because you get so much feedback in an MFA program as most classes have workshop portions, you end up focusing a lot on editing. The biggest takeaway from these programs is that writing is a process. The process, not the end product, is important. You need to learn your craft, write, edit, write more, edit more, etc. That is something I 100% stand by and agree with. After getting feedback from your workshop group, you need to learn to filter out feedback and figure out what works best for you, what fits with your story, and when you are being oversensitive when it comes to feedback. I haven’t necessarily found a good resource for this online, but I think you need to have thick skin but, more importantly, a clear picture of what you want your story to look like in the end. If you don’t have a vision, you will get led around by the feedback others give you, and they may not be your intended audience.

Once you’ve gotten some feedback from others, I highly recommend doing craft work in the areas that you struggle with, like dialogue, grammar, making things sound natural, writing descriptions, creating mood, etc. There are a lot of great thesaurus style books online that you can buy that help you with conflict, setting, emotional threads, etc. that I highly recommend if you need a reference book to aid you in developing those aspects. I would also suggest checking out Sarra Cannon’s Youtube channel HeartBreathings as she talks a lot about writing as a business and as a writer. She makes some fantastic worksheets and videos to aid in structuring your book and writing your characters’ journeys. These are actually things my MFA program didn’t cover at all, so I ended up relying on Sarra’s videos during my time in grad school. I also have a Pinterest board that has a ton of helpful goodies about writing.

The most important thing I would like you to focus on is figuring out what works best for you and your process. Becoming a writer is a marathon, not a sprint, so finding sustainable habits is key to not burning out. I want you all to succeed and go on to having fulfilling writing careers, no matter what that looks like, and to do that, you need to care for your body and mind first. Take care of your hands (stretch, think ergonomics, don’t keep writing if they hurt). Don’t shrimp (get an ergonomic chair or sit in a comfortable position, straight and stretch once in a while or get a walking desk). And most importantly, you can push back a deadline far easier than you can push off burnout. The key to a long career isn’t an MFA, it’s figuring out the best path for you, whether it’s traditional or self-publishing, being true to your vision, taking feedback, and continually growing as an author while still making sure to care for your body and mind.

Writing

No, You Shouldn’t Use AI, Even on the Small Stuff

If you’ve followed me on social media for longer than a few days, you know I hate AI. I am morally opposed on every level to AI because it not only destroys the environment but is a tool of fascism. As much as I would like to word vomit about that, instead, I would like to speak about why writers shouldn’t use AI, even for seemingly minor details as so many AI-using authors claim to do.

Here’s the thing, there are no truly minor details or unimportant parts of a book as everything needs to further the characterization and mood of the story.

I can already feel some writers rolling their eyes at that. Feel free to do so at your own peril. Writers who are willing to hand over parts of their project to AI to “free up their time” to do other things should instead look at their relationship to hustle culture and why they have chosen quantity over quality. Hustle culture is rife in the writing world with many author groups pushing a churn and burn mentality where authors need to publish every 3 months or be lost to irrelevancy. If you go onto Amazon’s top 100 category boards for books on writing, you’ll find books about writing more or writing faster. While those can be useful, writing more isn’t the same as writing good or better books. The hustle side of the writing world stresses that readers don’t care about the books themselves. They’ll read anything as long as it checks off a few boxes for them, and that once you have hooked them, readers will come back every 90 days to choke down whatever book you throw at them.

I despise this mentality. For one, it is patronizing to readers. Readers won’t stick around if your book sucks or if the quality goes down over time. We’ve seen this with readers noticing an author with a massive backlist has turned to AI, and they abandon them when the writing becomes nonsensical or the quality change becomes noticeably bad. I don’t like when authors treat their readers like shit or take advantage of them by assuming they will always be there no matter how they treat them or how crappy their books are. If you’re a writer, I believe you should write for yourself first, but anything you sell to readers should be the best it could possibly be for them since they’re the ones supporting you monetarily.

What I hate even more about the hustle culture mentality is the way corporate speak has made its way into creative fields. Creativity can and should make you money. Artists should be paid fairly for their work and be able to make a stable living off of it. At the same time, I don’t think creativity should be treated like a business in the way that corporations expect exponential growth at all times. It is unsustainable. We cannot write more books every single year and increase our yearly word counts exponentially. It is impossible and will quickly lead to burn out and quality loss. In order to meet these unsustainable quotas, authors turn to AI because others have convinced them that if they outsource the tedious parts of writing to the machine, they will free up time to write more of the things they enjoy or just write faster. The problem is that those tedious parts aren’t useless; everything in your book should serve a purpose.

What many of these “write more in less time” gurus purposely ignore is writing as a craft. There is almost no discussion of how to make your writing better, only how to do it faster. If they did care about craft, none of them would be suggesting using AI. As someone who teaches young writers how to better their work, every piece of writing I have seen from AI is far worse and emptier than anything brand new writers in my classes have come up with. AI writing is confusing, devoid of charm or character, and just flat-out bad. 0/10 do not recommend using it because it will take way more time to edit than just writing something yourself. A study with people who code showed that while they thought they were taking less time using AI, they were actually taking longer because they had to review it, fix it, etc (source). This is on top of the environmental harm, the fact that it is a tool of fascism, and a plagiarism machine.

The thing that a lot of writers using AI for the “boring parts” don’t seem to understand is that the minor details are incredibly important to your story. One of my most hated posts online is the whole, “Only English teachers care that the drapes are blue. They’re just blue. The author just gave it a random color. It isn’t that deep.” Sure, that can be true occasionally, but 99% of your descriptions and details should be purposeful. When you are creating a world, even if a story takes place in the real world, you are building a microcosm specific to your characters and the story you are telling. Therefore, there is an added level of cohesion and purpose in those details that might not appear in our material reality. When you are setting the scene, you need to think about how you want the reader to feel while interacting with this part of the world, how the structure fits the function of this setting, and how the point of view character effects the way the world is interpreted or experienced. For example, a character with a phobia of dentists is going to view, experience, and describe a dental office differently than someone who doesn’t think getting their teeth cleaned is a traumatic experience. If you just let AI fill in the description of the dental office, you are losing that context. Even if the character isn’t scared of it, they will still notice details other characters won’t, and while you’re writing your story, that should be something you focus on.

The other place I’ve heard people using AI for “busy work” in books is dialogue. This really makes no sense to me because dialogue is one of the best ways to insert characterization, motivation, and movement into a story. Even if you feed a chat bot relevant information about your character, it isn’t going to understand the context of your work and anything about the character below a surface level. Any dialogue it spits out will be generic, boring, and probably ill-fitting for the moment. This is one of those situations where editing extensively will be necessary and will probably take longer than just writing it yourself.

But what if I’m stuck? Why can’t I just use AI to fill in the gap for me?

Because that’s cheating! It’s cheating yourself out of using your brain to puzzle out what should go next. It’s like saying, “I find this exercise hard, so I’m going to use a motor to move the dumbbell for me.” It isn’t going to help you, and at some point, your writing muscles are going to shrink and atrophy until you can’t write anything without constantly circling back to AI. Using AI long-term causes cognitive problems (source). If you continually use it to help write your books, you will become more dependent on it and eventually get worse at writing. The best way to combat this is to face the things that challenge you head-on. Why are you stuck on this dialogue? Why do you struggle with description? Do you not know when you need to add it, or do you simply need some resources to help you name things?

There are a ton of writing resources online made by authors for authors, many of which are free. Instead of using AI, slow down and invest time and effort into getting better at your craft. I know hustle culture says write more, write faster, publish quicker, but the best way to get ahead as a writer is to take time for yourself and do things to be a better writer. Sometimes, that looks like taking a break to read good books, watch shows that stoke that creative fire, do other crafts to refill your well. Other times, it’s dissecting how other authors write well and figuring out how to do that in your own way. Writing takes work, and work means effort on your part. Using AI to write the things that you struggle with or find boring means that you are cheating yourself out of the opportunity to learn, grow, and become a better writer. Before you run to ChatGPT for help when you get stuck, look up a resource on Google that can help you with this particular thing. If you are struggling, others have too, and there’s a 90% chance that someone has made something to help you figure it out on your own.

Monthly Review

June 2025 Wrap-Up Post

Part of me would love to say that this month went really well because I got quite a bit of writing done, but the other part of me looks at the dumpster fire and chaos around me and feels otherwise. Either way, I am happy that I feel like I have finally found my stride with The Reanimator’s Fate. Let’s look at our goals for June before we get started.

  • Write at least 20,000 words of The Reanimator’s Fate (TRM #4)
  • Try to write every single day at least a little to be consistent
  • Get the audiobook for The Reanimator’s Remains (TRM #3) out everywhere
  • Maintain my mental health and balancing my writing and hobbies to avoid burnout
  • Catch up on my stitch-a-long
  • Exercise consistently
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • Send out my monthly newsletter
  • Enjoy my 20th anniversary with my partner

Books

My goal was to read 8 books, and I read exactly 8.

  1. The Gentle Art of Fortune Hunting (#1) by KJ Charles- 5 stars, two fortune hunting but charming young people come to London hoping to find stability and find more than they bargained for when the young man sets his sights on the well-off niece of a cranky brewer only to fall for the brewer instead.
  2. Iris Kelly Doesn’t Date (#3) by Ashley Herring Blake- 4 stars, Iris has sworn off love after too many failed relationships while Stevie is trying to get back into the dating world after leaving a long-term relationship. When anxiety wrecks a one night stand with Iris, Stevie thinks she’ll never see her again until they end up in the same queer community theater production.
  3. The Other World’s Books Depend on the Bean Counter (#3) by Yatsuki Wakatsu- 4 stars, an accountant ends up accidentally ending up in a new world along with the woman fated to save it only to find out he’s allergic to magic and the only one who can keep him safe is a very serious, slightly overprotective knight. The world’s books are a mess, and they may be the key to saving the kingdom.
  4. The Other World’s Books Depend on the Bean Counter (#4) by Yatsuki Wakatsu- 4 stars, see above.
  5. The Other World’s Books Depend on the Bean Counter (#5) by Yatsuki Wakatsu- 5 stars, see above.
  6. I Hear the Sunspot: Four Seasons (#3) by Yuki Fumino- 4 stars, a hard-of-hearing man joins a new company only to realize he’s stepped in it in regards to one of his coworkers. Meanwhile, his boyfriend is struggling with his own issues at work and how to deal with being a queer person.
  7. The Duke at Hazard (#2) by KJ Charles- 4 stars, a duke ends up duped out of his signet ring and goes on a mission, while incognito, to find it only to run into a ruined noble who might be the key to helping him find it.
  8. Mr. Collins in Love by Lee Welch- 4 stars, a very sympathetic retelling of Pride and Prejudice from Mr. Collins’s point of view where he is neurodivergent and struggling to maintain the life he desperately wants to keep. His life changes for the better when he runs into his childhood best friend only to realize it runs up against his patroness’s desire for him to find a wife.

Admin/Behind-the-Scenes Stuff

  • Wrote the initial blurb for The Reanimator’s Fate
  • Published The Reanimator’s Remains (TRM #3) on Amazon, Audible, Apple Books, Spotify, Chirp, Nook, Kobo, LibroFM, library systems, and every other major audiobook platform
  • Enjoyed my 20th anniversary with my partner
  • Got my partner’s blood work done (this gets a spot here because it was an ordeal)
  • Made my goals for Q3
  • Edited someone else’s book
  • Took a weight-lifting hiatus due to the heat
  • Played Coral Island extensively to maintain my sanity
  • Incessantly bothered my senators and congress person
  • Fell even further behind on my stitch-a-long project (oops)

Blogs


Writing

While I didn’t hit my goal for the month, I did write quite a bit and feel like I’ve finally hit my stride. The beginnings of books are where I struggle most. It feels like there are so many paths open that it is overwhelming to me. By the time I hit the end of act 1, I find my footing, and my daily word counts get progressively larger. Part of the problem is that the #3.5 short story took longer to write than I expected, and then, I had to restart the beginning of TRF because I didn’t like it. This version is significantly better, and I will not yeet this draft into the void. Oliver and Felipe are dealing with a case of death by book while also grappling with librarians being weird, buildings with a mind of their own, and of course, their own neuroses getting the better of them. Next month, I will have more to show you and talk about, so stay tuned.


Hopes for July

  • Write at least 20,000 words of TRF
  • Set up the preorder for TRF
  • Work a little on the rewrite of F&F
  • Manage my stress better as a USian living in this hellscape
  • Keep up with my bullet journal better
  • Catch up with my cross-stitch
  • Enjoy my birthday
  • Read 8 books
  • Blog weekly
  • send out my monthly newsletter
Project Shop My Shelves

Project Shop My Shelves: Q2 2025 Update

Back in March, I decided that I wanted to start Project Shop My Shelves (known as PSMS going forward). The goal of PSMS is to read twice as many books per month than I buy, but there are a few sub-goals that are equally important:

  • Don’t buy new books unless they are from marginalized authors (indie or trad)
  • A 2:1 ratio of old books to newly bought books every month (or more if possible)
  • Read through the older books to finally get them off the TBR pile
  • Be realistic about my enjoyment of an author and what medium I prefer to read them
  • Post quarterly about my progress with this project

I figured now was as good a time as any to update my progress with this self-imposed project. TL;DR: I did not hit the 2:1 read:bought ratio, not even close. Here are my stats for the second quarter of 2025.

Stats:

April: I bought 11 ebooks, 0 ARCs, 5 physical books, 0 audiobooks. I read 10 books, 5 of which were preexisting, 8:5 bought:read ratio

May: I bought 3 ebooks, 0 ARCs, 10 physical books, 0 audiobooks. I read 8 books, 3 of which were preexisting, 13:8 bought:read ratio

June: I bought 6 ebooks, 1 ARC, 8 physical books, 0 audiobooks. I read 8 books, 3 of which were preexisting, 7:4 bought:read ratio

As you can see, I epically failed trying to hit that 1:2 bought to read ratio. Part of my spectacular failure is due to Indie April sales (hence the 11 ebooks) and a lot of preorders coming available in May. Combine that with being in a governmental stress-induced reading slump, and my reading and buying habits have been on the hot mess express.

Buying Books: A Breakdown

Something I did stick to was buying marginalized authors of the *cough* many *cough* books I bought, only 2 were by white cis het Christian authors (aka non-marginalized authors). My reading habits tend to be pretty varied, so I’m not surprised that this was the part I was willing to stick to. The worst part about trying to stick to this ratio is that there are a lot of marginalized authors I want to support, especially since I know publishing requires early sales, and for indies, I want to give them monetary support. I’m okay with putting my money where my mouth is. I just need to read more without wrecking my mental health in the process.

One of the points mentioned above is paying attention to the format in which I enjoy authors. So far this quarter, I haven’t had any authors that I think I’ll be shifting to a different medium. There are a few, not ones I read this quarter, who I have decided I will no longer be reading after I finish the series I am working through. Susan Dennard is one of them. I don’t dislike her books, per se. I just don’t have any desire to read more of her work after finishing the Witchlands. My brain bounces off her writing style, and there are certain things in her books that annoy me long-term. I also plan on reading an Alexis Hall book in ebook form because so far I have only read them as audiobooks, which I really enjoyed. I just want to see if I have a form preference or not where their books are concerned.

Reading Books: A Breakdown

I completely forgot to read the oldest books on my list. Oops. I’m sort of torn on this bullet point because I tend to be a mood reader, and I don’t want to force myself to read books that I’m not jazzed about. The problem is that less than half of the books I read were preexisting books. That means that I’m not reading what I have. Part of this was due to starting a new manga series, which was five books long. I’m glad that I’m somewhat staying on top of what I have bought, but because I’ve been in a bit of a reading slump, I haven’t been reading as much as I would like and therefore, am not reading my older books. Treading the line between reading more and burning myself out has been a struggle lately, but I am going to try to read more next quarter.

Quarter 3 Goals/Outlook

Void staring has been a major issue for me in quarter 2. A lot of it is due to external stress and strife (aka the US government is stressing me the hell out 24/7). It makes it very hard to focus or get a whole lot done. I’ve also been struggling to write and rewrite the beginning of The Reanimator’s Fate (TRM #4). The good thing is that I think I have finally found my footing, so there’s a good chance that balance may actually be returning to my life in the near future. I’m also debating trying to listen to an audiobook while playing Coral Island. I haven’t tried to do so, but I know one of my friends often does this. This will help me get through some of the older books on my TBR while still doing something fun and relaxing. As of right now, I don’t have a lot of preorders set up from July to September, but my birthday is coming soon. I was debating whether to have my birthday haul count as books bought or not, but I ultimately think they should count since they are new books added to the TBR pile. I’ll make sure to specify that next quarter, so you all don’t think I just have a shopping addiction. I will keep the 2:1 read to bought ratio, but if I haven’t done this once by the end of the year, I might pull it back to a 1:1 ratio to make it more realistic.

Personal Life

Kara’s Random Game Recs in 2025

Not going to lie, I have not been coping all that well with *gestures to the dumpster fire that is the United States right now*, and to cope in a way that wasn’t doom scrolling for hours on end, I have been playing video games. I know a lot of my readers also play games, so I thought I would recommend a few I have enjoyed recently. By the way, all of these games are at least on PC since that is where I play games.

  • Love, Ghostie– This is a game where you play a match-making ghost who runs a boarding house. In this game, you partner up people in the boarding house by giving them gifts from the other person and setting them up on dates. The game is super cute, low stress, and every pairing is possible. There are lots of little Easter eggs and nods to other media that I really enjoyed.
  • Spilled!– THIS GAME IS VERY SHORT, but it’s also cheap. It’s a basic game where you pilot a boat and clean an oil spill. The game is one of those you can easily play when you’re anxious and just want to give your brain something to focus on that doesn’t require a lot of higher thinking. You also rescue animals and clean up a pretty pixel landscape.
  • Minami Lane– This game is also semi short, but it also has a no rules, play as long as you want mode. In Minami Lane, you build up a town and try to make the residents happy. It’s interesting because you have to balance the needs of older and younger people, which most games don’t care about. It’s like a much lower stress Rollercoaster Tycoon or games like it.
  • Botany Manor– It’s a first-person exploration puzzle game where you play a botanist who goes through pieces of her house to grow about a dozen fantastical plants. While you solve these puzzles, you learn more about the main character’s life and show where she’s going in the future. The scenery is gorgeous. If you are directionally challenged like me, you will spend a lot of time in the landscape, and it is worth the time loitering. If you like a subtle narrative with plenty of serene puzzles, definitely check this one out.
  • Lost But Found– This game is still in development but is playable, so it will be a little buggy. It’s more stressful than any of the games mentioned above while still being far lower stress than most games. You work at the lost and found at an airport, so you have to quickly give things back to the people who show up. It’s a lot of sorting while also being like a search and find game. If you only play on a laptop, it is difficult without a mouse as it sometimes lags.
  • Urban Jungle– Another plant-focused game that is similar to Unpacking but with a score/puzzle element involving plants. You can end up grinding a bit if you are trying to collect all of the plants (like I did), but the story is very sweet and well done. It makes me hope they make a second game involving the character’s brother. It’s about becoming the person you are and nurturing yourself (and your plants) in order to grow.
  • Coral Island– This is the longest game on the list as it is open-ended. Coral Island is a farming sim like Stardew Valley, but what sets it apart is the styling of the game and the emphasis on pollution/cleaning up the ocean. You can romance SO MANY characters, but there are also mines, a town score you need to raise in order to unlock many things, and an ocean world to explore and clean up while fighting off a mega corp. I am many, many hours deep into this game, and I cannot recommend it enough for staying sane during trying times.
  • Spirit City– This is less of a game and more of a working/learning tool, but Spirit City is worth the money. It is a game that helps you body double, do pomodoro timers, keep track of your goals and more, all while creating a cute avatar, playing with your creatures, and customizing your space. The customization in this game is chef kiss, and it helps a lot if you are struggling to stay focused. It also comes equipped with lofi beats and many helpful tools.

If there are any games you think I would like, please leave them in the comments!

Personal Life

To My Partner

This Friday will be my twentieth anniversary with my partner. Yes, you heard that right, 20 years. My partner and I have been together since we were fourteen. We went to high school and college together and have gone through our own respective gender journeys together. I finally figured out the words for my gender back around 2017 or so. I have always felt like being a woman didn’t fit me, and once I heard the term “nonbinary,” I realized that I had been feeling dysphoria for years and started to do things to make myself happier and more in line with my feelings regarding my gender. None of these were huge changes because I’m incredibly stubborn and refused to dress femme for years before that. Now, I am just more aware my dysphoria and less willing to please others while making it worse.

My partner, on the other hand, ignored the fact that she was dealing with dysphoria for years. She tried to double down on dressing masculine while in college, but it didn’t make her feel better. Last year, she thought she might be nonbinary because our discussions of gender made her more comfortable to explore her feminine side. And this year, she realized she was actually a trans woman, and we figured out how to get her gender affirming care. She is close to the three month mark on hormone-replacement therapy, and she is the happiest she has ever been. More than anything this year, I am so glad to have my partner feel more like herself and be on her way to being the person she truly is. Twenty years and two gender discoveries later, we’re still together.

I love my partner more than anything or anyone. She is my best friend, my biggest supporter, the best pet co-parent, the one I turn to when times are tough, and the one I want to see flourish more than anything. If you’ve never seen someone you love transition, it is a beautiful thing. Every day I see my partner become more herself. She is so much happier, even after a few months. She has new pronouns and a new name, but she’s still the person I have loved for twenty years. I look around at everything that’s going on with trans rights being under attack in the US and UK, and I cannot understand how people can see others transition and not think it is something beautiful. It is a righting of a biological wrong, and the mental health results speak for themselves. My partner has battled depression for as long as I have known her. She still has depression, but it is night and day since she started on estrogen and t-blockers. Her mood is better, she’s more emotionally even, and when she is sad, it isn’t the same level as past depressive sadness.

As if to spite the transphobes (and because I love her deeply), I have thrown myself into being as supportive as possible. What’s funny is so much of what I’m doing to affirm her has been dysphoria-inducing to me. I have sat here racking my brain about what she could need or what people tried to give me that I hated when I was hitting puberty. My partner has been collecting more feminine clothes for a while now, many of which came from my wardrobe because they were too feminine for me, but I have added to the pile. She now has a purse or two, bras, and my favorite surprise for her was a Kaboodle with some starter make-up. My partner will probably never come out to her family because she doesn’t think they’ll accept her, and I want her to feel as loved and accepted as possible.

When I first realized I was nonbinary, I was afraid my partner would be upset or confused that I wasn’t a woman. She was fine with it, unconcerned, and she has supported me in my weird little guy-ness ever since. That sort of acceptance paved the way for her own journey of self-discovery, and I am honored that I get to be on that journey with her to smooth the way and support her in every way I can. Being a t4t couple has only made us closer and stronger, and I will do anything to make sure my partner has the best life she can possibly have no matter the political climate and no matter what people who don’t know her say.

To my partner, may you have the best life and the life you have always wanted. Here’s to twenty years, and many, many more!

The Reanimator's Remains

The Reanimator’s Remains is out in Audiobook!

I was debating holding off on announcing this, but just in time for Pride, The Reanimator’s Remains (TRM #3) is out in audiobook! Jack R. R. Evans is back as our narrator, and they are absolutely awesome. I think they did a fantastic job capturing Oliver and Felipe as well as all of the characters inhabiting the mysterious town of Aldorhaven.

the audiobook cover for The Reanimator's Remains written by Kara Jorgensen and narrated by Jack R R Evans

The audiobook version of The Reanimator’s Remains is available on Kobo, Chirp, B&N, Audiobooks.com, Apple Books, Spotify, GooglePlay, library systems, and more! You may need to request your library buy a copy, but it is available! The only place where it isn’t out yet is Audible/Amazon. They are dragging their heels, so it may take a few more weeks for it to be available there. If you really want to get your hands on it, I highly suggest grabbing it elsewhere.

You can also get books 1 and 2 (and Kinship and Kindness) at all major audiobook retailers.